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What is Vaginismus?
'Vaginismus is the term used to describe recurrent or persistent involuntary tightening of muscles around the vagina whenever penetration is attempted.'
The symptoms include burning or stinging pain upon penetration, as well as intense fear or loss of desire when penetration is attempted.
How does it develop? It is a complex psychosomatic condition, and the causes can be varied, such as painful first intercourse, sexual abuse, fear of pregnancy, or a deeply rooted belief that sex is wrong.
Vaginismus isn't 'only' about sex, it's about life. Penetrative sex is not the only thing its victims lose - let's be honest, not all of us prioritize that - but a sense of intimacy or self-worth too. It can painfully interfere with regular gynecological examinations, the use of tampons and period cups, or even childbirth. And if you have no one to talk to and share your experiences, the isolation can be unbearable.Let's fight the stigmas around vaginal sexual health and open up the conversation together
Resources
All things helpful from reading to therapeutic tools and toys. Please be advised that our approach to healing Vaginismus is very sex-positive and as such, this section contains NSFW parts.
The Vaginismus Network
Break the isolation: Make friends and attend events
A community for people with Vaginismus. Having suffered in silence for many years, the VN team understands how communication, information and understanding can be a great comfort and help in managing and overcoming this condition.
Becoming Orgasmic Pleasure Course
For Women & Vulva-Owners Who Want to Learn More About Their Potential For Pleasure
- Knowledge is power - getting to know yourself
- Builds sexual confidence solo and with a partner
- Improves understanding of self-pleasuring
- Discover different ways to experience pleasure
- Learn how to have orgasms
Sh! Soft Silicone Dilating Kit with Bullet Vibe
Created to help you advance towards pain-free penetration
The kit consists of four soft and smooth silicone shafts of graded sizes, plus a vibrating bullet. Following and aiding therapeutic work, together with appropriate exercises, the Sh! Dilating Kit will help you transition to pain-free penetration.
YES VM
Vaginal Moisturizer
- Organic Gel to supplement natural lubrication
- Hypoallergenic
- Alleviates vaginal dryness and atrophy
- Free from parabens, hormones & glycerine
- PH-balanced ISO-topic formula
Sliquid Naturals Satin Moisturiser Lubricant
Lube & Vaginal Moisturizer in One!
- Aloe & Carrageenan infused water-based formula
- Perfect for daily use or during intercourse
- Designed for long-lasting, natural comfort
- Emulates natural vaginal lubrication
- Provides long-lasting comfort
Lube & Vibrators
Vibrating sex toys, or vibrators, are wonderful tools for helping to relax tense nerve endings and can make dilating a lot more pleasurable.
Vibrators needn’t be big to be effective. Even teeny-tiny finger-tip vibes can be both useful and fun.
Go slow, and always add a generous amount of a lubricant you like the feel of. We recommend water-based lubricants as they are more body friendly. Opting for a paraben-free version lessens the risk of developing irritation, so always look at the ingredients before making a purchase. Sh! Pure Lube is an excellent choice as it is body-friendly and hypoallergenic.
Finger Tickler Vibrator
Gentle Fingertip Vibe with Soft Textured Pad
- Fingertip vibrator in soft silicone
- Silicone sleeve with soft strands
- Removable single-speed bullet vibrator
- Suitable for newbies
- 3 x LR44 batteries (included)
Zalo Calla Lily Vibrator
Elegant & Versatile
- Super-slim dual-ended vibe
- 3 different surfaces to explore
- Long handle can be inserted
- Insertable length: 3.9 inches
- 2 motors with 8 levels each
Mini Ribbed Vibrator
Ribbed Vibrator with Extra-Small Tip
- Smooth silicone vibrator with flexible tip
- Ribbed shaft with teeny-tiny tip
- 7 pleasure modes + 3 powerful speeds to discover
- Waterproof for relaxing play in bath or shower
- Battery-operated
Slender Mini G-spot Vibe
Slim Vibrator for G-spot Exploration
- Slimline vibrator with G-spot seeking tip
- 3 speeds + 7 pleasure patterns to enjoy
- Smooth silicone shaft and tip
- Waterproof for relaxing play in bath or shower
- Battery-operated
You Feel My Love Vibe
Slimline, Tapered Design
- Petite pleasure-giver
- 0.52 inch the tip
- Smooth silicone
- Rechargeable
- 7 modes
Cuties G-spot Vibrator
Longer Handle for Ease of Use
- Slender vibrator with angled G-spot-seeking tip
- Strong vibrations with 5 speeds and 8 modes
- USB rechargeable and waterproof
- Made from smooth silicone
- 1-year guarantee
Slimline Warming Vibrator
40.5°C Can Help with Relaxation
- Petite vibrator with warming function
- 0.9 inch at its widest point
- 10 speeds + turbo boost option
- Super-flexible
- Narrow neck
Ribbed Tapered Vibrator
Non-Threatening Vibrator
- Smaller size sex toy
- Made from body-safe silicone
- Soft, ribbed texture
- Slim tip tapers out
- 10 modes
Discretion Mini Ribbed Vibe
Finger-Size Vibrator
- Shorter vibrator
- 4.45 inch long x 0.83 inch wide
- Firm material
- Quiet vibrations
- Single, medium-strength speed
Callie Silicone Bullet
Finger-Length Vibrator for Shallow Exploration
- Short vibe with tapered tip
- Powerful vibrations
- Matte black silicone
- USB rechargeable
- 3 speeds + 7 patterns to explore
Je Joue ILY Vibrating Wand
Vibrator with Heating Function
- Sensually 'squishy' vibe
- At widest: 1.10 inch
- Insertable length: 3.7 inch
- 3 speeds + 7 modes
- Warming function
Warming Vibrator
Bendable Warming Vibe
- Smooth silicone with textured tip
- Warming function
- 10 vibrating modes
- Full length: 4.3 inches
- Widest point: 1.2 inches
Sh! Rabbit Vibrator
Bestselling Rabbit Vibe with Twirling Beads
- Slimline 1.25 inches rabbit with shaft and clitoral stimulator
- Measures approx 2 fingers in girth
- Squishy TPR material
- 3 x AAA batteries (not included)
- 3 speeds + 12 modes
Hand-Poured Sh! Cupid Silicone Dildos
Various Sizes
- Handmade Cupid dildos
- Body-safe silicone
- Available in vibrating versions
- Easy to clean
- Other colours available
Hand-Poured Sh! Wirly Silicone Dildos
Various Sizes
- Handmade Wirly dildos
- Body-safe silicone
- Available in vibrating versions
- Easy to clean
- Other colours avaliable
Sex Toy Cleaner
Spritz On, Rinse Off!
- Spritz on sex toy cleaner
- Vegan, all-natural with 97% organic ingredients
- Antibacterial
- Detergent-free
- Spray, wipe and rinse!
Therapists
Choose a professional who understands your condition!
Sarah Berry
Sex & Relationship Therapist
Having sought therapy for my own sexual difficulties, I have an understanding about how difficult sex and relationship problems can be and how they can impact your life.
Dr Su Yap
Clinical Psychologist and Psycho-sexologist (ESSM/EFS certified)
I work as a Principal Clinical Psychologist in a NHS sexual health clinic, and am an active member of the British Society of Sexual Medicine. I run a successful private practice with individuals and couples I take a holistic view of the person, looking at biological, psychological & social factors that cause sexual problems. I use psychological techniques that scientific research has shown to be effective for sexual problems.
http://mindsurgerylondon.co.uk/
Karen Pollock
LGBTQ Councellor
I am a registered member of the BACP, working towards COSRT accreditation and specialising in LGBTQ issues. I offer empathetic, non-judgemental open-minded counselling in Northumberland
Kate Moyle
Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist
I believe in helping people to get to a place where they feel in control
of their bodies again; working towards sexual wellbeing, health and
happiness.
www.katemoyle.co.uk | www.thethoughthouse.co.uk
John O'Reilley
Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist
I am qualified with a British Association for Sexual & Relationship Therapy and have been working in this area since 2002. I have assisted many women and couples struggling with vaginismus.
Trudy Hannington
Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist
I am a Psychosexual Therapist at the Leger Clinic, in Doncaster, and Chair of The College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists, as well as a member of the British Association of Sexual and Relationship Therapy.
Krystal Woodbridge
Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist
I am a member of COSRT and a qualified nurse working in St Albans. I am a registered therapist with Pink Therapy and a former winner of the COSRT post-graduate award for work in psychosexual therapy.
www.woodbridgetherapy.co.uk
Clare Staunton
Sex and Relationship Councellor
I'll work holistically to help you gain a sexual identity where pleasure and consent are at its heart - reducing anxiety around intimacy.
I'm based in West London, contact details below if you'd like to get in touch.
Carolyn Cowan
Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist
I am Carolyn Cowan, a Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist who is also a sex addiction therapist & a member of COSRT & ATSAC. You can make appointments to see me in Belgravia, central or south London. I can also work via Skype or FaceTime.
www.sexhelp.org.uk
Kirstie McEwan
Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist
I have undertaken further specialist training with Pink Therapy to work with sexual and gender diversity.I am registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and I am a general member of COSRT, currently working toward accreditation.
www.counsellingwithconfidence.co.uk
Rima Hawkins
Relationship and Psychosexual Therapist
cross-cultural I am a professionally qualified COSRT accredited, BACP registered therapist with over 20 years of sexual health experience. I have a private practice in Chelsea and Fulham. My main interests are female clients with psychosexual issues and clients who have inter/cross cultural relationship issues. My primary mode of working is Humanistic-Integrative Psychotherapy.
Can't find what you're looking for?
Visit the College of Sex and Relationship Therapist's website for a full list of COSRT therapists in your area. COSRT accreditation is awarded to psychosexual therapists who have met strict criteria in training, experience, knowledge, ethical standards, clinical skills and commitment to continuous professional development; this is audited annually.
